There are just some people who rub us the wrong way. They perhaps lack the social graces or ability to phrase things in a pleasant way. Some may say, "At least they are honest and you always know what is on their mind!" Well, not so if you didn't ask for their advice. This is especially difficult when someone is in a position of authority, whether real or imagined. We are all so different and thank God for that! We can still thank God for these people as well. Those rough edges on others can make us a bit smoother while allowing us to learn patience. However, there is no reason to keep silent if we are being mistreated. Make no mistake, there is no reason to tolerate abuse voluntarily.
Romans 12:18 says, "If possible, as far as it depends upon you, be peaceable with all men." Things may be peachy on your end but you can not control how someone else behaves. You may simply need to remove yourself from contact with the person. Paul mentions this regarding the most intimate of relations, marriage. 1 Corn 7:10 “...A wife is not to DEPART from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried OR BE RECONCILED TO HER HUSBAND..." Sometimes putting a bit of distance or space between you and the offensive party, (spouse, friend, family member, co-worker), can give each a chance to reflect on the relationship.
The Greek word used for “depart” is chorizo, and it means “to place room between, to separate.”
Both sides then have the opportunity to calm down after time and distance have been allowed to heal fresh wounds. This is not a cure all for every situation but it can be a help in many cases. Also recognize inappropriate behavior for what it is....inappropriate! Candy coating the actions of someone who is completely unreasonable will not hold up here. Toxic relationships can drain the energy and creativity out of anyone. Don't let this happen! Pray for them but put some healthy space between you so that you may have peace. It may give them the chance to consider their actions and whether or not they wish to continue having you in their life.
PRAYER: Oh Yah, You know each and every heart. You also know how much we can bear. Give me a wise heart and good council to live in peace with the many people who come into my life.
Yes, yes, yes... perfect advice here and very comforting! Another thing that I like to do in order to stop the chain reaction of negativity generated is to immediately turn around and do something nice-kind-helpful for someone else. It could be as simple gesture of opening a door for a stanger or writing a thank you card to someone. Works wonders on your mood.
ReplyDeleteThat is good energy well spent! You are onto the right idea of turning something negative into a good outcome.
ReplyDeleteThe point is to find peace and safety for yourself. We can't control what other people can do but we can control how we deal with it. Bless you!